We have been running swinger clubs and organising swinger parties for twelve years now and probably the most common question we get asked by newcomers contemplating attending their first swinger party is, 'What do Swingers Wear?'
This question is usually based on the popular misconception that swinger parties are like fetish parties where everyone wears outrageous costumes to match a party theme or a personal fetish. Although it is true that a few swinger parties do have themes where some sort of fantasy dress code might operate, the vast majority do not.
Concerns about what people wear can also be based on an alternative misconception. This is that swingers take their clothes off the minute they arrive at a party and only put them back on when they are ready to leave. In reality most swingers are not naturists and have as much fear of public nudity as the average person does. The only parties where disrobing from the outset occurs is at parties held in naturist spas but even at these, guests are more likely to wrap themselves in towels than walk around in the buff.
In general, the male guests who attend swinger parties will be dressed in exactly the same way as they would for a friend's birthday party or other similar party type event. In other words, they will wear smart casual clothes.
Although ladies are encouraged to consider wearing sexy lingerie, many do not and the safest bet for them is take something to change into when they feel confident to do so. To illustrate how normal the female dress code at a typical party can be, we often point out that what some women wear at a night club is often more skimpy or sexually provocative than standard swinger party apparel.
Apart from the special themed swinger parties and parties held in naturist spas, the only other type of swinger party event that presents a special case with regards to what to wear, are parties that have a formal dress code. These are very few and far between and tend to be organised by groups of swingers who operate in an exclusive membership circle of select friends. If you do get the chance to attend such a party, the dress code will be clearly spelt out on your invitation. A Black Tie invitation requires men to wear tuxedos and women to wear cocktail dresses or dressy evening separates. One exclusive swinger dinner party group has a black tie dress code for males and lingerie or nudity for females. Quite a theme!
But the majority of swinger parties are not like that and the only really essential dress requirement is that you feel comfortable in whatever you decide to wear. In a nutshell attending a swinger party isn't really that much different to attending most other types of party.