What to Wear in a Swinger Club

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Our most commonly asked question

By Aphrodite

We have been running swinger clubs and organising swinger parties for 27 years now and probably the most common question we get asked by newcomers contemplating going to a swinger club party for the first time is; 'What do Swingers Wear?'

This question is usually based on the popular misconception that swinger club parties are like fetish parties where everyone wears outrageous costumes to match a party theme or a personal fetish. Although it is true that a few swinger parties do have themes where some sort of fantasy dress code might operate, the vast majority do not.

Ask some of our swinger community what they wear:

Swingers don't normally strip off

Concerns about what people wear can also ofter be based on another misconception. This is that swingers strip off their clothes he minute they enter a swingers club and only put them back on when they are ready to leave. In reality most swingers are not naturists and have as much fear of public nudity as the average person does. The only parties where disrobing occurs from the outset is at those held in naturist spas but even at these, guests are more likely to wrap themselves in towels than walk around in the buff.

In general, the male guests who visit swinger clubs will be dressed in exactly the same way as they would for a friend's birthday party or other similar event. In other words, they will wear smart casual clothes.

Although ladies are encouraged to consider wearing sexy lingerie, many do not and the safest bet for them is take something to change into when they feel confident in doing so. To illustrate how "normal" the female dress code at a typical swinger event can be, we often point out that what some women wear at a night club can be more skimpy than the typical apparel worn by the female swinging community.

One exception to this Wear whatever you feel comfortable in" attitude is at a few special events where a formal dress code is imposed. These events are very rare and are usually organised by groups of swingers who operate within an exclusive circle of select friends. If you do get the chance to attend such a party, the dress code will be clearly spelt out on your invitation. A Black Tie invitation requires men to wear tuxedos and women to wear cocktail dresses or dressy evening separates. One exclusive swinger dinner party group has a black tie dress code for males and lingerie or nudity for females. Quite a theme!

But the majority of swinger club parties are not like that and the only really essential dress requirement is that you feel comfortable in whatever you decide to wear.

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