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How to Close Swinger Chat

The art of closing all that wonderfully enjoyable swinger chat is often not appreciated as being the most important part of the whole process. This is especially the case when it comes to single males who new, nervous and often desperately keen to get into the swinger lifestyle without realizing exactly how they need to go about it.

The Greatest Swinger Dating Mistake

As every salesman knows, 'closing the sale' is something that should be going on all the time, from the moment the customer walks through the show-room door.
The same principle can be applied to swinger dating, especially if you are a single male trying to get the first step on the road to a swinger lifestyle.

All too frequently, single guys and newcomer swinger couples do all the right thing when swinger dating but slip up on this one, crucial aspect. They read the body language, create the necessary atmosphere of playfulness and strike up rapport through the use of good flirting techniques.
The other person / swingers are ready. They are feeling that they have met a guy (or couple) they have sexual chemistry with. They are beginning to eat right out of their hand. The date could not have gone better. In fact it has gone so well that time has whizzed by and has run out before the guy or couple ever got to realize the most important thing of all. Goodbyes are even said and someone mutters something under his breath about meeting again sometime. Yet still they fail to notice their big mistake.

The other party goes off home thinking about what a nice guy or couple they met and how enjoyable the date had been but then they start to wonder why nothing happened. No sex was suggested and no date or proposal to meet again was offered.

This sort of situation is by no means uncommon and if you are a single male or newbie couple, hoping to enjoy regular adult fun and a swinger lifestyle, you need to ensure you don't let it happen to you. Here's what you can do about it.

Three Ways to Close a Swinger Date

Basically, there are only three options for closing conversations that take place between swingers who are meeting with a view to enjoy recreational sex:

  1. Proposing a move straight on to the sex
  2. Proposing to meet somewhere private and to have the first threesome or other sex there
  3. Closing by agreeing a date to go to a swinger club or private sex party together

Which one of these closes you go for will be in part dictated by the circumstances of your meeting. You would obviously not be going for the first option if you were meeting in a public place or if the person or couple you were dating had already placed a time or other kind of restriction which took having sex that night right off the agenda.
On the other hand, if you were meeting at a sex party, closing the chat by having sex would be the only sensible option.

Closing Sex Party Chat

In theory it is much easier to avoid the forgetting to close pitfall when the chat-up takes place at a sex party. Yet it is still possible, and over the years, we have witnessed many occasions where both swinger-couples and single males have been guilty of letting golden opportunities to enjoy threesomes and foursomes slip away because they failed to close conversations.

Imagine the situation. Two couples with both females provocatively dressed in revealing attire, are engaged in highly flirtatious conversation. Both partners of both couples are genuinely up for their first ever group sex experience. They are keen to do a full swap and both find the other couple really attractive. The simple thing would be to close the conversation with a straightforward proposal like, "Are we ready to try the playroom out then?"

Instead, they all get sucked into extending the conversation until it loses its vibrancy and begins to stutter into a boring exchange of questions and answers. At this point at least one, and possibly all, of the participants decide that the other couple suddenly don't seem so attractive any more. Someone makes an excuse to move on and the chance of swinging has gone.

Worse for Singles Males at Swinger Parties

For single males attending swinger parties this sort of situation can be disastrous because failing to close a conversation with a couple who genuinely enjoy threesomes of the MFM variety, might mean missing out on the only opportunity that a particular event offers him.

Swinger parties are going to be attended mainly by couples who are only interested in partner swapping sex. It could be that the single male who fails to close the conversation is doing so with the only couple who had any interest in having a threesome with a male. When this is the case, he has not only blown his chances of swinging with the couple he has been chatting up, he has effectively blown the whole party and might just as well go home!

Fear of rejection is probably the main reason that so many people are poor closers. This form of social anxiety can only be overcome by adopting the feel the fear and do it anyway approach. The more you put this into practise, the less you feel any anxiety, until eventually, closing becomes a natural way for you to move things in the direction you want to go.

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