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Keys to a Successful Swinger Lifestyle

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Swinging Appeals to People for Various Reasons

This page examines the various reasons why people are attracted to the swinger lifestyle.
Whilst the appeal of recreational, non-monogamous sex is fundamental to all swingers, within this there can be many aspects or practices of swinging that are a turn-on for some swingers and are disliked, disapproved of or even disdained by others.

Swinger's Adrenaline

Luciana is a swinger who has been to countless sex parties and enjoyed just about every aspect of the swinger lifestyle for the best part of two decades. Now in her early fifties, she says that she has lost none of her enthusiasm for swinging.
We asked Luciana what she felt the main appeal for swinging is for her. She took some time to answer and admitted that it was a difficult thing to express in words.
"I suppose you'd call it an adrenaline rush," she told us. "In a way its like what people who go in for adventure sports experience. When I'm at a swinger party I feel kind of high just looking around and meeting potential sex partners who I've never met before. It happens quite apart from the sex and long before any decision to have sex with anyone is actually made. Its just the most exhilarating feeling, that's all I can say really."

A Sense Of Acceptance and Belonging

The answer we got from another of our long-standing members, a thirty two year old single named James, sounded almost mystical but it really rings true with a lot of other swingers. Its just that James managed to articulate it so well when he told us;
"For me, its about a deep feeling of belonging and total, non-judgemental acceptance. This is the feeling you get when everyone is naked and sharing intimacy. No one is trying to hide anything and every person involved in the sex is accepting everyone else as they are at the most fundamental level of human existence. I guess its the way we all used to feel before society dreamed up all the one partner stuff and false moral values that people have to live with these days."

Swinger Couple Enjoy Best Sex at Home

One of the most common reasons as to why the swinger lifestyle appeals to some couples concerns the after effects of attending sex parties. On countless occasions, couples - especially younger ones - have told us that the most enjoyable thing they get from swinging events is a sense of their own intimate sexual pleasure being greatly enhanced after returning home from a party. Whether or not they actually engage in any sexual activity whilst at the event, these couples become highly aroused in the privacy of their own bedroom later on and say that the sex they enjoy there is the best sex they have ever experienced.

Watching Her Watching Him

Another commonly stated reason given by swinger couples of all ages is the enjoyment they get from observing their partner having sex.
Sometimes its the male saying how much he enjoys watching his wife or partner. Some males want this to be restricted to couple swapping sex or even to going no further than the female giving oral sex to another man. At the other end of the scale, some men enjoy seeing their partners in the centre of group sex activity made up mainly of other males. Some even go as far as arranging gang-bangs where they can derive pleasure from watching their partner being ravished by a group of men.
In all of these scenarios, the man has the choice of joining in or just watching. Although it is more usual for such men to join in, there is also a sizeable minority who prefer to just watch.
The watching him appeal of swinging is probably slightly less common that the watching her one. Nevertheless, we have met a lot of couples where the female partner is the one who says that the biggest appeal of swinging for her is to watch her husband / partner having sex.
Arranging FFM threesomes is a common way of enjoying this particular appeal and the woman herself will take a full active part in the threesome sex. Far less common is a reverse gang-bang but it is not entirely unknown for a woman to arrange this as the ultimate sexual present for her husband's or boyfriend's birthday etc.

Plus Many Other Motives to be a Swinger

There are many more reasons why the swinger lifestyle appeals. As we said earlier, everyone is different and what is pleasure for one person can be a big turn off for someone else.
Whatever turns you on is fine as long as you don't go swinger dating or attending sex parties with the notion that everyone else is motivated by the same feelings or values that you experience.

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